How and when do you decide when a ‘friendship’ is over?
Sometimes when ‘friends’ fade away or change it can be hard to accept but deciding when a ‘friendship’ is over is a step to letting go. There can be many situations when you should let your ‘friendship’ die, thee is also ways to fix your ‘friendship’ is you choose to do so. You have to think carefully about the decision to end your ‘friendship’.
Firstly do you even like your ‘friend’?
Sometimes you will find yourself going in different directions to your ‘friend’ and find out you actually have little in common but still find yourself calling that them your ‘friend’. Honestly if you feel like your making all the effort and not getting anything back from your friend it’s probably time to accept that the ‘friendship’ is dead. Do you care about your ‘friend’ still? Do they care about you? How important is your ‘friendship’ exactly?
How often do you have arguments with your ‘friend’?
Do you keep having massive arguments and total misunderstanding? Do you feel disappointed in them? Do they feel this way too? If so you should decide to end the ‘friendship’. Friends aren’t always going to get along but you should be able to know you can both see eye to eye most of the time!
Do not stick with hurtful friends!!!
If your ‘friend’ is constantly talking about you behind your back or worse to your face it definitely is time to end the friendship! Your ‘friends’ should care for you, love you and want nothing but the best for you! They should definitely respect you! I know deciding to end a ‘friendship’ can be extremely hard though. If you see them bad mouthing your name on social media you should definitely not be ‘friends’. Just ask yourself, If your ‘friend’ is talking about you behind your back, are they sharing your secrets?
Are you important to each other?
If your both not making time to see each other and only communicate when your making the first move to contact them first I think you can safely say it’s time to end the ‘friendship’. ‘Friends’ should make each other a priority. Maybe it’s time to think of them as an acquaintance rather then an actual ‘friend’.
Are they always talking about themselves?
Does your ‘friend’ think they’re the Center of the world? Do they always talk about themselves? Do they ever ask about your day or if your okay when you actually do spend time together? Have they actually apologised for anything they’ve done? They probably don’t value your ‘friendship’. Make the right choice and end the ‘friendship’.
You Constantly Have Awkward Conversation?
Unfortunately when you can no longer hold a conversation with your friend that’s a sign that the friendship is coming too an end. Even if you do have something to talk about is there a sense of awkwardness? Do you even have heart to hearts anymore?
Are they around for important milestones in your life?
A good friend should be like family, they will take time to share the most important times in your life, whether they are happy or sad! If your friend no longer makes time to be there for you then you are probably not going to be friends for much longer!
Do you disagree with your friend choices in life?
As we get older you take on more responsibility. You start thinking about a family, having a house, driving, maybe a mortgage and start fending for your family. With doing this you have to make changes in your life! You can’t always hang out with your friends. You can’t always go out on a weekend drinking until 4 in the morning. If your friend can’t accept this then it’s a sign the friendship is over.
Do you still hang out?
This is probably the best way to see if your friendship is fading away! Has it been weeks/months since you last saw each other? Maybe you’ve just gotten too busy and not had the time? Whatever, neither of you go out of your way to make time for each other and plans to hang out.
You have separate groups of friends
Friends usually grow apart when they have a separate group of friends. This could be as a result of your lives not as interesting as they used to. You will usually notice that your mutual friends are reducing and you two barely know each other’s new friends.