Cancer Life

How I Wish People Saw Riley’s Bald Head.

One thing that used to upset me the most when Riley was going through his treatment was the way people used to look and stare at him when he was bald.

Tell you, it used to make my blood boil. It’s not even like they used to take a look and look again it was a full on stare. All eyes on him. I could always feel myself boiling inside getting ready for the next person to stare at him for me to let go all my anger.

Of course, people think it’s sad that a child has cancer. It’s not sad, that child is fighting cancer. To them it’s the hardest battle they have to face. The day you walk past a child with no hair is another day that, that child is winning!

I finally decided to shave Riley’s hair off in December because his hair was starting to fall out, just two chemotherapy sessions into his treatment plan. I woke up one morning at the hospital and found little blonde hairs on his pillow. That’s when straight away I hoped the chemotherapy was working.

Thankfully Riley didn’t loose his eyelashes, he has the most beautiful long lashes…

After 7 sessions of chemotherapy and whilst waiting for surgery Riley’s hair started to grow back. It was very very very blonde. Was only like this until it fell out again during high dose chemotherapy. His surgery was in March and his high dose chemotherapy started in April. One month apart.

After 21months of treatment Riley now has light brown hair.

For a 4 year old Riley has never asked questions when we have seen other bald children in clinic or on the ward. When I ask Riley why didn’t he have any hair he just says because he was poorly but he’s all better now.

Riley knows he was poorly and he knows he had cancer but he doesn’t know what kind of cancer or all the treatment he’s had. He will know more about then when he’s old enough to understand…

I wish having hair didn’t mean healthy and been bald didn’t mean sick. I wish bald was a sign of an strong fighter winning a battle. I guess all I can hope is when children ask their parents questions, the parents respond with uplifting comments of hope..

I know people are going to talk and stare but please don’t. Smile! That child has a battle they shouldn’t have to face. Smile and know they are brave! They look beautiful without hair.

I used to always put a hat on Riley whenever we went out but he always took it off. Which I don’t blame him to be honest he was proud of his bald head! He showed it off! I will always be so proud of him.

When Riley was diagnosed with cancer Alice (his auntie) more ales decided straight away that she wanted to have her head shaved and donate her hair to Little Princess trust LittlePrincessTrust

Which she raised over £2000 for for candleligjters the charity that supported us and Riley throughout his treatments Candlelighters

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Cancer Life

What I wish I’d told everybody when Riley was diagnosed.

” Friends, Neighbors, Acquaintances & Facebook…

My child has been diagnosed with cancer, Neuroblastoma. We’ll be in the hospital for months during treatment. Which means away from home. I know this might shock and upset you but cry with me not for me.

I love that your thoughts are with us even if I don’t reply to your texts or messages. As of this minute I don’t have the answers to your questions…

Until I set up a page to make updates too you all, I’ll be posting one Facebook status every few days. I’ll be telling information to close family who can then pass on the information to other people as that will be easier for me.

If you want to help, please go ahead and make some quick meals for us to warm up in the microwave as that’s what we’re going to be relying on in the ward. I have to stay with him at all times & although I’m staying on the ward I’m not provided any meals. Oh and a gingerbread latte would be nice too. Try and have a somewhat normal conversation with us. Want to come visit us, please do it. The ward is so friendly.

l will be tired. So mind blown. In shock and scared. I would love if you visited even if I don’t talk much, my mind will be thinking over time about what’s going to happen to him. Maybe you could watch him for 10 minutes so I can get some fresh air or a quick shower?

I will have very limited sleep as the beeping of the IV machines will be going off every 2 hours during the night for more fluids and chemotherapy. I will have limited access to WiFi, food, technology & essentials.

Thank you so much for understanding & sending your love. ”

From a parent who child now has cancer.